When You’re In A Bad Mood

It’s hard, day in and day out, doing the same things. Feeling the same feelings. Fighting the same battles. I used to have a really tough time getting out this hole – deep, dark, bottomless. I’ve learned some tips to make my bad days seem…not so bad.

DRINK WATER

It’s obviously the healthiest beverage choice, and the cheapest. I keep a 64oz container of water in the fridge, ready to go when I need it. Staying hydrated is important anyway – but this is the best choice when you are grumpy. Caffeine makes me jittery and hurts my stomach, which doesn’t do anything to improve my mood, no matter how good it may taste at the time.

GRATITUDE

I am grateful for so much in my life. My kids. My family. My friends (it still makes me smile, writing friends. I spent many years alone.) After all that’s happened, I look back on how far I’ve come – and my kids – and remember that God used that experience to shape me into what I am now – and what I have yet to become. Sit down and make a list of everything you are grateful for today.

MUSIC

Listening to some music usually helps me feel better. I use Spotify, and have certain playlists I go to when I’m feeling icky. My current favorites are the Moana soundtrack (especially Shiny) and my Christian radio playlist. Unfinished by Mandisa and Hard Love by NeedToBreathe are some really motivating ones!

EXERCISE

I hate exercise. I hate being outside. I hate being sweaty. But there’s something about moving, burning calories, that makes me feel so much better when I’m done. My current go-to is walking, but I’ve been thinking about trying yoga – I know my kids would love it – and the benefits are endless. Do you have any tips, YouTube channels or advice on how to get started with yoga, especially as someone who is not flexible at all?

MAKE A LIST

Sometimes, I make a simple to-do list, adding things like: eat breakfast, wash the dishes, take a shower. When life gets crappy, seeing even routine things crossed off a physical list can be powerful.

JOURNAL

Write it all out. Get it down on paper, or type it out on your computer or phone. It can help you sort through what’s making you so grumpy. It’s like venting to a friend. Or…

CALL SOMEONE

Reach out to a trusted friend or family member. Most of the time, they will be more than willing to listen and they may even have some suggestions. Bonus points if they meet with you in person. Sometimes, when you feel crappy, you don’t want to be alone.

GET A HOBBY

Find something you genuinely love to do. For me, it’s taking photos of my kids, writing YA paranormal fiction and reading through the Harry Potter series.

Sidenote: if you have meds, take them! If you don’t, and think you might need them, make an appointment with your doctor to talk about it!

When all else fails, lounge on the couch and binge-watch some Parks & Rec or Supernatural. Sometimes, you just need to feel crappy for a little while. Just don’t let it go on too long!

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My Journey to Brave

I was recently inspired to get my s*** together from one of my favorite memory keepers, Ali Edwards. She wrote a post about her wellness journey and it made me think about my own life and everything I have going on right now. As focused as I am on my kids and getting them through this, I know I need to take care of myself too. Up until now, I’ve done a pretty poor job of that.

I eat too much junk and drink too much hipster coffee (even though I’m not a hipster). I binge-watch way too much Parks & Rec and read Harry Potter too many times. I don’t drink near enough water and don’t really like being outside (deer flies are the devil).

I’m negative and pessimistic. Every situation is the end of the world, and anxiety pretty much runs my life. I don’t have any really close friends and it’s social anxiety’s fault. Depression keeps me from feeling okay about my body and my life.

But that’s not how I want my kids to grow up. That’s not what I want for us – for me. We deserve better.

To me, being brave means stepping up – Rising Strong – and taking care of myself and my kids. Taking back control of all the things in my life and letting go of the ones that don’t matter anymore.

I am working on a solid plan right now to improve all the important areas of my life. I want to be honest and open about my struggles and triumphs, because I was silent for so long. I hope you’ll join me!

Beth Gets Brave